I am still completely shocked by his actions and not just telling me. I guess he has issues, and doesnt have time for me. No reply. First date went really well and we agreed to see each other the day after. Buh-bye, boy! I have read others experiences here and it sounds like many have been through worse (being ghosted after months of dating/being ghosted by the same person multiple times), the burn that I felt initially was insignificant compared to what others commentators had been through. Your ex asks you to hang out. Can I reach ou one more time? To tel Told him I liked him and want to know him more. well I am not punishing him, but .. why should I waste my time? if hes not wanting me why he still keeping.. and still want to meet me ? God bless! Ive got you on this! He's in the habit of texting you in the early hours, such as before bedtime or when he's partying with his friends. Life isnt about karma. So days later he finally agreed to talking. The last time we hanged out I was at a very low point health-wise. People certainly arent. I would be running for the hills. He is a considerate person and hes talked about breaking up with girls. I said just: I would love to:) He forgot about our dates we had planned and he is gone. Save the sweet talk for when you are interested in a woman, youll be doing your self and a lot of women a favor. Well i blew up his phone and bitchrd him out in a voicemail. Anyways, he lived on the other side of the countrysent me flowers and rosses in valentines day and all that crap that girls Dream Just remember, HES your backpocket guy, thats all. Great For: When he's asked you to hang out and you need to demonstrate you're capable of having fun on your own. But then would come back after a few days. He changed, he became mega flirty & wanting to always hang out, making plans to go on holiday, camping etc. We got along so well, but 4 months later, after a misunderstanding he asked for a 6 week break.This was the hardest thing I had been through for a long time, wondering. I did what I probably shouldnt have done, texted him again, just a question mark as a text lol, and then again a few days later saying something like youre more complicated than French guys , how was ur weekend no reply.. and then facebook message saying that if he didnt want to communicated, the least he could do was saying so, cause that was rude not to reply.. and still no answer its driving me crazy, im dying to know why he changed his attitude like that he hasnt unfriended me yet so im not sure what to think. Go find someone who actually wants to be with you someone that you dont have to wonder about. I think my guys were just emotionally unavailable and didnt expect what they were getting with me. I remember when I started to get serious with my on-again, off-again of 5 years. I guess in his case its not ghosting but it became plain emotional abuse, as he has known me for so long and still manages to hurt me on purpose when disappearing. Still, talking without listening is never a good thing. What you need to ask yourself is: are you willing to continue following him around like a wounded puppy, looking for an answer hes too chicken (or too bothered) to give? Good luck to you, because youre going to need it. But no I talk to my friends bf(whos a friend of mine) more him I am actually flabbergasted at how they can act like everything is so normal when both of us know that he is screwing up badWe chatted for a while and I let the conversation trail off and did not pursue it anymore and he went back to his quiet, disappearing self..No word since then, and I pride myself on not giving in to the urge to check on him however casuallySo this is it, I will probably never hear from him, but I think Over the weekend I will be so busy with other stuff that I will be able to get my mind off himKeep yourself busyBuy yourself something pretty, get a new haircut..or indulge in some delicious gourmet icecreamAnything which will stop you from doing something stupid like reaching out to himI keep telling myself and you should doif/when they are interested they will contact usand if they dont they are not worth the importance and energy that we waste on them..Be strong, you deserve so much better :)). I used to blame it on the alcohol and all his stress in his life and make excuses for him. He didnt say anything and I didnt say anything. You have every right to remove yourself from a relationship where you dont feel comfortable. But now he hardly txts me, tells me what hes doing or is sweet. Dont contact him anymore. I tried to message him, it came back BLOCKED (he blocked me). I have no idea why! We used to text at least once daily, now it has been 6 days. I ask myself from time to time Am I doing the right thing by not reaching out? At the same time, I know I did nothing wrong and he was a complete coward to not come forward and tell me he wasnt interested anymore In a way, it was his wrong and I dont need to sorry about anything. Whik with him he seemed 100% enamoured and not in a cheesy try hard way. Once I came back off holiday it was a month after the break up, I went to his to get closure because I wanted to know why he did it. I am in the middle of getting ready for my brothers wedding this weekend and there has been a lot of stress that i was chatting to him about. Wish you all the best! I know I deserve better than this treatment, but how do you get it? Tomorrow will be 7 days that we have not spoke to each other and I am not sure if were still together or not but I just do not feel that a 7 minute conversation should cause a person to not talk to you for this long. He responded a day after thanking me for the simple gift I gave him. I later saw on his Facebook that he went on a trip to Canada at the same time that I was supposed to have been with him in France. I just think that women tend to be too quick to say that a man doesnt care over something as silly as not calling them every 5 seconds. Who said you had to stand there and talk to them?!! I had a few dates that were rotten, once guy was nice buts just wants sex. We met online, first date was lunch on the 2nd of Dec., communicated every day and had three great dates, the last one being on the 12th. Im not fond of my birthday, nor am I a normal woman who fawns over all children & babies, so I would never have done either of those things without him starting themwhich he did. i was EXTREMELY into this girl but the first date glow went up in smoke on the second date. Youd probably just be like, Hey, howve you been?. (because he didnt). He didnt even say a word. Dated for like 2 months, Then BAM Everything changed. I came back all refreshed we were getting but I was still a bit cautious . please help. We would have small talk every once in awhile like people do when passing each other but nothing significant. I know from other sources he did not meet another woman. Spent a couple months having some great times. Like I said before, he is the one who told me he loved me etc first. Take the signs and guard our hearts a little better next time. When a guy disappears without a text or a call, it could mean that hes trying to keep you as an option. He ghosted me :( i dont get why people do this to others. The first date went great. 1: A worthy man who is really into you and excited to carry on seeing you and feels you have invested in him, will not in any way jeopordise this by ghosting. It pains me how many people have been through something like this. We risk 50% of our shit if we do. WHY wont these men stay in my life? She deserves a lot better than my bullshiets and keeping her at bay is in many way my expression of caring for her. He has a girlfriend in his hometown. You need to be met with the same openness, and not just disappear, making the relationship short-lived. I do too but I havent met him yet. Im sorry that happened to you, but also glad that you have moved on. We exchanged numbers and coincidentally remove r our profiles at the same time. I met his friends and went to two different birthday parties. At all. I pulled away. For now focusing on me and the betterment of my life. Keep telling yourself that. Hes become really cold towards me and its gotten to the point where I cannot take it anymore because its bought back my major depression again. But I feel as if I am not capable, on many grounds, to make her happy! At least youll know its time for you to completely give up on this thing between you, as all of the waiting probably wont get you anywhere. And should I text him back when he text me? There might have been a misalignment of interests, and he chose to disappear since he knows that you wont meet those expectations. Just right after he drove me home he texted me he had a great time and thanked me for it. Then we decided to start dating. Many are married cheaters looking for a quick lay and that is all. But when he text me or he call me, he act like everything is fine after he vanished. I have known him since June but will not sleep with him till I am certain He is sincere and committed to us being together. We decided that I would go back to France for almost a month to visit him over my school break. This guy isnt man enough to handle the situation like an adult, so youre going to have to be the adult. It really is a coward move. Well I think its only me but thats why I cant let him go just yet. Do you wanna keep doing what we are doing? This statement needs to be at the forefront of this article. This is the main reason ive stuck around, Feeling like he needs a friend sometimes, And the person i am being there for him. He texted me two days later, again to see whether I was available to hang out this week, I had not replied yet since he doesnt take his time to respond to me, at the end of the day I am keeping my options open I might see him this week, but at the other side I am going to see other people as well.. Dont take it personally. I know him! If he pops up again later, call him out on it. I really wish we all can be more honest to each otherI hope your feeling better now . I normally take my time in getting to know someone but we clicked immediately and I felt with every fiber of my being that this was special. Did I respond incorrectly? No matter if they say they are miserable, unhappy, etc, you should not have entered into a relationship with someone else who is married. If its the early stages of a long distance relationship, and theres a bit of ghosting, is it the same of hes just not that into you? I am very independent. We are already on to the phone sex and I dont want a casual fling. Just be a good girl. He professed his love to me daily. In that case, we have done our part -for ourselves-, and this person was a coward not a man we could have counted on with our lives. The narcissist! in almost a year, we act hide and seek, I hide he seek. Like he did too and I could see myself with him. I am pretty sure he had been acting flakey because he wanted it to end. Never much input from him. I still remember what he has told me just know that I will come back, I dont want you to worry that suddenly I wont want to talk to you Its been a month already and where is he now, gone with the wind. I think its kind of harsh to say that he does not care about me. Its comforting to know others have gone through it and come out the other side, good luck to us all :-). MORE: On Loving Yourself and Becoming More Confident. As he was driving me home he held my hand and then we kissed good night. I want to reach out, but I feel like its really him that needs to reach out to me! He got back to me and told me that he loved me and always will, but he had reconciled with his wife, and she was now pregnant. I mean..I didnt want a relationship and neither did youso why didnt we do it and just leave it at that? Long story short, met this guy a month ago. But, Im still not use to it and it worries me every time. Everything was going great until one point when you decided to ghost me. I do wonder why alot and cant comprehend someone of his so called character would do such a cruel thing, but he did and it is what it is. Just curious what do you think of a situation where two people who met each other at a party friend each other on a social network where she texts like she talks but also engages him about himself/his day and he always sends back just stickers or 1 phrase. After six months of mourning, I joined a club. More responsible ^*( person ) to do that. He blocks me on Facebook the day or two before his overseas trip. BUT During this talking he has said he has missed me and how he liked when I would be sleeping next to him because it would relax him. Therefore time-wasters do not deserve our time! When that happens, youll already have learned so much from the experience that you wont let him fool you twice. I know id tell someone If i wasnt feeling it. When I reactivated my profile on the dating site I saw that he was back on. He sent mixed signals. I deactivated my own Facebook account for a while. I refuse to text him again though because of my pride which just leaves me sitting around, wondering if he'll come back or if I lost him forever. 18 years later he called me back FINALLY. I met a guy on a dating app, talked for 2 weeks, then had a date. I really lived the same situation. I texted him asking if we were still meeting and never got a response. Lesson learned. One day I finally went to see him and call him on his shit. So I would keep doing these little attention seeking ploys and basically I would intentionally self sabotage myself and thus push her away. He is very high up in law enforcement in our city. It does suck though, I admit, because I thought he liked me and I was really taken with him. And therein lies the problem fairytale stories written by men and read to us by Daddy. crickets); women also cancel dates at the last minute more than men and for more ridiculous reasons (my dateless friends said some jealous crap about him and i know them better than i know him- dates off!). Move on. Youd think id be over this by now but nope, Hes making it really difficult. My lifes a mess too LOL But we just get to a point where enough is enough, And believe me its took me too long to get to that point. Looks like I am headed in the same direction as your cousin..Damn, This guy finally contacted me first on Monday, then on Friday after the final text I sent him, I did not contact him at all last week, I was checking to see if he would initiate contact without me texting himI guess he needed some sort of ego stroke and was worried that he would lose me as an option. And then youll find another new guy you can try and spin something great out of. It took him two months for the first time, I have no idea how long it would take now. I would love to spend more time with you to see how we get along but if thats not a part of your plan, then I dont want to waste my time. When I left we are still on speaking terms, because I was very calm and spoke to him with respect like he should of done me. It seems to me that he would want to give me some type of answer to not make it so awkward when we see each other. Its been weeks since then and Ive not heard from him neither have I reached out. I deleted him because I didnt even want to see his name pop up in my newsfeed lol. Instead of making sure not to lose you, he willingly walked away from you and treated you as an option. I didnt know that message because it happened that I deleted my account on whatsapp so when we got the chance to text each other thru bbm, thats the only time i read that message after 8 days. Im so sorry you and so many women are going through this. He always says Im just having my own little problems so I believed him but when I text him , sometimes he doesnt even respond or he would just respond late.. At first I was thinking he was getting depressed about something but he wouldnt tell me whats wrong. We talked daily before that. Quit texting. Does he give you what YOU need? In the middle of that week I asked for his exam( we had troubles to meet that friday because he was busy with that exam). I really have no idea too. Time for an upgrade! I fell in love and planned a trip back there this summer. Totally not looking for anyone he walked up to me and I thought hey hes cute lets give it a go. He initiated the texting and phone calls. Walk away from him and be the one whos playing the ignoring game. He introduced me to all his friends on date 2 and met my sister on date 6. Sitting here crying now because dont understand what happened. 11. Both of us didnt want a relationship, so there were no feelings. 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